09. 24. 2020
This year’s lockdown and its effects on school and work life have led us to finding a deeper appreciation for the incredible moms at Arc Interactive. Here’s our Executive Office Manager, Deoné McLachlan’s perspective on balancing family and work during a pandemic.
As one can imagine, times has been more trying than ever before and being a working mom, of course, comes with many challenges. As much as I appreciate watching my little boy grow up and being physically around to see him tackle and overcome daily milestones, doing this while having to complete the daily duties of a full-time job has been somewhat overwhelming.
The myth of doing it all
I dont really know what to say when people ask, How do you do it all? Maybe the best answer is I dont. Maybe rather than asking that, the question should be, How do you make it work?. I give myself permission to have a sink full of dirty dishes, have my boy in front of the television, watching his favourite show for a period longer than whats considered allowed, and Im OK with a walk down the street being my exercise for the day.
Finding a balance
Working, partnering, mommy-ing during this lockdown period has been a rollercoaster ride of note. One has to strategically balance out all three aspects and their individual duties, so that theyre able to give everyone their fair share of attention. If you don't learn to keep your roles as mom and career woman separate, giving each your full concentration for a set amount of time, you'll never feel like you're doing either well.
It all comes down to compartmentalising and not being ashamed to ask for help. Its important to be a professional and a good mother, but its important to be present in both roles, instead of stressing about failing someone all of the time. When Im with my son, I put my cell phone in the other room and step away from the computer.
When Im at work, I close all of my internet browsers and put my cell phone in my desk drawer until I need it for something work-related. Ive been lucky enough to have the full support and assistance from my partner since were both working from home full-time. Weve teamed up and figured out a routine that works best for us, our jobs and most importantly, baby boy, Cai.
The best advice I can come up with is: be flexible, lower your expectations, laugh at yourself, be present and try to enjoy the little moments as well as know your limits. Know how much time you need alone outside of work and kids because when youre burnt out, both of your jobs will suffer.
Do you think being a mom is sometimes considered disadvantage in this industry? How can this be changed?
No. When you enjoy what you do & can time manage/prioritise, there's no way you can go wrong. Being a mom means you automatically learn to multitask and because moms are superheroes, they never quit and whatever they do they, do to the best of their ability.
Is there more pressure when you're trying to get ahead/grow in digital as a mom?
I won't say pressure, but maybe its more challenging. As moms, we have a responsibility to take care of another human being, until theyre old enough to go out into the big beautiful world. We need to work extra hard to achieve our goals and get ahead.
How do you deal with the demands and added pressure?
Time management and priorities, everyday isn't the same so I try to work on a routine that works for me.
Your message to other young moms working in this industry during this pandemic?
Youre doing an amazing job. Stay growing and glowing, you gorgeous glow getter.